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How to Forgive Yourself (even when it feels impossible)

You are so worth it – don’t let your past mistakes define your future. Forgiveness is definitely a process and I learnt this the hard way by holding onto mistakes and destructive behaviours for years. The longer I held onto them the greater the burden they became. If...

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You Are What You Think

I was chatting with a friend of mine yesterday who I hadn’t seen in a few years seen and whilst we were talking about the everyday comings and goings in our lives she said quite boldly, ‘Louise, how on earth has my life got into this state?’. My reply was very simple...

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LOVE

And if you can't love, FORGIVE. And if you can't forgive, UNDERSTAND. And if you can't understand, ACCEPT. And if you can't accept? Then you'll simply spend your life in turmoil, fighting the truth and failing to move on from what hurts you. And fighting doesn't make...

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10 Skills The Best Long-Term Partners Have MASTERED

What makes a long-term relationship work and why are so many fragile? A good place to start is to look at people who have made their relationships work over a long period of time. We can’t know on that very day we tie the know that we are going to stay happy and...

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10 Tough Questions To Ask Yourself When You Feel Like Giving Up

‘I’m just so unhappy, it’s not working, should I leave or should I go'? Many of us have been at the point and you could well be here right now wondering if you should leave the relationship you are in – perhaps you are staying just waiting for things to improve but...

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7 Ways to Reignite and Refresh that Hopeless Relationship

It’s hopeless, my entire marriage is a mess, it’s utterly pointless. Perhaps you are feeling this right now as you live day in day out in what is slowly becoming a loveless marriage. I hear this almost every week from women of all walks of life; working women,...

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5 Things Nobody Told Me About My Children Leaving Home

Monday, August 22, 2016, will be a very significant day for me as my youngest daughter, Sophie, starts full-time work for the first time in her life. Gone are those lovely long university holidays, those month long Christmas breaks, summers spent chatting, walking,...

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What will you risk this week, what step will you take, what difference will you make in your life? Life is all about choices and some choices we make in life will involve taking a risk – each and every one of us at some point will face the decision of which path...

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Young Teenage Boys Feeling Overwhelmed With Life

Growing up today isn’t easy – this is a world unknown to our parents and grandparents, we have little guidance and ‘know how’ to help our boys develop into young responsible, happy adults. Surviving the teenage years can be a huge challenge for some and many boys will...

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How Love Changes People From The Inside Out

Every single area of my life has changed from me making the decision to learn to love myself from the inside out - AND without one conversation with anybody. I have gone from 35 years suffering a destructive relationship with my mother, agonising a similar...

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Talk To Each Other and Not About Each Other

Sometimes, just sometimes, this really is THE right thing to do - what do you think? Do you feel it's right for you to speak from the heart, but fear keeps you silent? Are you feeling stuck, frustrated, annoyed and alone in a relationship right NOW because she just...

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What You Can Do When You Can Feel Your Marriage Slipping Away

I hear this comment almost every week, ‘It’s hopeless, my entire marriage is a mess, it’s utterly pointless’. Perhaps you are feeling this right now as you live day in day out in what is slowly becoming a loveless marriage. Take a step back, let’s look at the aerial...

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~ Living Out Of A Suitcase ~

'The Good' magazine invited me to put together a post for their July edition on our summers as an expat - ~ Living Out Of A Suitcase ~ Summer has arrived and we turn our thoughts to long holidays escaping the heat as we excitedly look forward to reuniting ourselves...

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The Number One Ingredient Every Happy Relationship Needs

Having just returned from a little holiday with Mum & Dad back in the UK which in itself is a miracle after years of suffering a destructive mother/daughter relationship, I come home to find 'Your Tango' has promoted my latest article. This is the glue that keeps...

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It’s Not Your Fault

Why is it you keep self-sabotaging yourself with negative thoughts when you're trying to enjoy the moment? Our subconscious minds drive around 97% of our behaviours which is huge (and one of the main reasons I chose to study hypnotherapy as hypnosis is a process which...

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The Number One Ingredient In Every Happy Relationship

Laughter is the glue keeping all happy relationships together Ask yourself right now – when did you last have a laugh together? Our kids often turn to us and say, ‘What’s the secret to a happy marriage?’ There is no secret and there isn’t just one thing that keeps us...

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‘Expect nothing; appreciate everything’

'Expect nothing; appreciate everything' - one of the greatest & hardest lessons for me has been to let go of 'expecting things from others.' This photo of my 3 children is a rare event these days & was taken at the weekend - they don't often get together and...

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Shame and Control Unknowingly Destroy Relationships

How do I know this? Because I’ve been there. Full of shame and doing everything in my power to control myself, my situation and everyone else around me, slowly destroying every relationship I had. When you hear the words, ‘I don’t love you’ from your mother’s lips the...

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5 Things No One Ever Told Me Would Destroy My Marriage

“Relationships are a rollercoaster ride.” As a young bride at 23 years of age, I had no idea what lay ahead, what marriage was really about or what to expect. I was young, innocent, and actually quite clueless so I wanted to share with you a few things that I would...

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Do You Know What Real Love Is?

Working with women this question comes up more and more, so I have come up with a few ideas as to what real love is in my opinion and I'd love to hear yours. So many people really want to be in a relationship without a clue what it is they really want or who they...

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Anxious Children and How You Can Help Them

When you instinctively know If you have children you may well know that anxious feeling of when your child says he has a tummy ache and wants to stay at home or doesn’t want to catch the bus and continually complains of a headache. As a mum you’re not quite sure...

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How You Imagine Your Husband Is The Best He Will Ever Be

How I Changed My Marriage Without One Conversation With My Husband Having been happily married for 28 years how does it get better from not even consciously trying? This bit of my healing journey has blown my mind. For most of my life, I suffered from a destructive,...

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Motivation is the Key

Why is it some people seem highly motivated and achieve many things in a quick manner and others seem to spend their lives procrastinating? A key element for me was to change my approach in how I saw the ‘project’ in hand and as soon as realised I didn’t actually have...

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Handling Rejection

Rejection happens to us all and in so many ways, it hurts like physical pain. Perhaps you’re suffering right now or you can remember what feels to be so let down by someone or something important to you - a relationship, a job offer, a friendship? It’s human nature to...

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