You’re ALWAYS One Decision Away From A Totally Different Life

Such true words & a beautiful quote. I wanted to share this today to give you some hope even if you have been in that ‘very dark place’ for some time – I was in that place myself there for many years but I do know there is a different way of living life.
I have a few memories going back to when I was about 4 years old craving then for my Mum’s attention, affection, love & her praise….you name it anything – I just wanted Mum. As a young girl in my early teens, I knew I would bring my own children up differently, I knew I would hug them, praise, them, be there for them, do everything the opposite of my Mum. I made a pact that I would be different.
Roll on many years into adulthood and being blessed with 3 gorgeous children I strove to bring my children up in a totally different way and for the best part I did BUT what I wasn’t prepared for was the exact same beliefs and patterns I had taken on unconsciously from my own mother (and previous generations) were still in play.
Having spent 35 years battling with Mum trying to seek her praise, love and affection I asked for a ‘truce’ to accept each other for who we were. I believed this was the best way forward so flew to England to deliver the message personally. Only to be told she didn’t love me and wouldn’t ever change. Reeling from the shock of these words I didn’t know what to do as this was something I had never considered happening.
But worse was to follow, my beautiful eldest daughter, Charlotte (on the right), who I had thought built up a good relationship on many aspects, ‘advising her’ and ‘nurturing’ her through life, said, ‘Get out of my life, you’re just like your mother’. Wow, how did that happen? I tried my utmost to be the opposite.
So, this brings me to the whole point, I was trying to change everything in my ‘physical world consciously’ but subconsciously nothing had changed and the subconscious drives our feelings and behaviours so without change here everything remains the same.
It was then I had to make a decision to change my life in EVERY aspect for fear of losing everything I had and I did. For the first time ever I put my hands up and said, ‘Help, I have no idea what to do, but I cannot live like this anymore’. The best decision I have ever made in my life.
This without a doubt is THE greatest gift to my children – the paradigm no longer exists – I have passed down for the first time in generations a new, healthy way of living. And all three children recognise this with such gratitude.
Today, I have loving relationships with all of my family and Charlotte has been back home living with us in Dubai for the past two years and we’re buying a home near Mum and Dad in England for our future – life doesn’t get much better than this.
So, if you are suffering right now, KNOW that you can change your entire life – you don’t have to know the ‘HOW’, you have to know that you will change and then that will become a belief over time.
I can’t wait to hear from you today – please don’t be alone, COMMENT now, x